Relationship Anxiety Therapy in Los Angeles
Individual sessions, virtual throughout California
Feel more secure in your relationships and at peace in yourself.
Relationship anxiety can leave you overthinking, needing reassurance, and feeling insecure no matter how much you care. If you recognize anxious attachment in yourself, or notice that you pull away just as things start to get close, therapy helps you quiet the worry, build self-trust, and create the healthy, connected relationships you deserve. This is individual work, so you do not need a partner to begin.
You Might Be Here Because…
- You overthink texts, calls, or small changes in behavior
- You constantly need reassurance
- You fear your partner will lose interest or leave
- Conflicts feel overwhelming and hard to move past
- You struggle to trust yourself and your relationships
- Jealousy or insecurity show up frequently
- You people-please to keep the peace
- You feel anxious when your partner pulls away
- You compare your relationship to others
- You self-sabotage when things start going well
- You've been hurt before and it's hard to feel safe again
Relationship Anxiety Can Show Up As:
- Constant worry or overthinking
- Needing frequent reassurance
- Anxious attachment patterns
- Self-sabotage
- Difficulty trusting
- Taking things personally
- Fear of abandonment
- Emotional ups and downs
- Feeling "not enough"
Imagine Life with More Security
- Trusting yourself and your partner
- Feeling calm instead of constantly on edge
- Enjoying your relationship without overthinking
- Having healthy, honest conversations
- Feeling secure, desired, and valued
- Building a relationship that feels safe and fulfilling
How Therapy Helps
Therapy helps you understand the patterns that fuel relationship anxiety and heal past wounds affecting your sense of safety. Together, we'll build self-trust, reduce overthinking, regulate emotions, and strengthen the way you connect with yourself and others.
- Understand the patterns fueling relationship anxiety
- Heal past wounds affecting your sense of safety
- Build self-trust and quiet the overthinking
- Regulate emotions during conflict
- Strengthen how you connect with yourself and others
- Get relationship counseling that works around your schedule, online across California
What We Help You Work Through
Relationship anxiety
Overthinking texts, needing reassurance, and bracing for something to go wrong even when the relationship is going well.
Attachment patterns
Understanding why closeness feels unsafe, why distance feels unbearable, and how those responses were learned long before this relationship.
Codependency and boundaries
Losing yourself in relationships, struggling to say no, and feeling responsible for managing everyone else's feelings.
Dating and breakups
Navigating dating fatigue, repeated patterns in who you choose, and rebuilding after a relationship ends.
Trust after betrayal
Working through infidelity, dishonesty, or broken promises, whether you stayed, left, or are still deciding.
Self-worth in relationships
Untangling your sense of value from how someone else is treating you, and learning to trust your own read on things.
Anxious Attachment and Other Attachment Styles
How you learned to seek closeness and handle distance as a child shapes how you do it now. These patterns are not personality flaws and they are not permanent. Recognizing yours is usually the moment things start to make sense.
Anxious attachment
Closeness feels good but fragile. You may monitor for signs something is off, need frequent reassurance, and feel most activated when someone pulls away.
Avoidant attachment
Independence feels safer than depending on someone. You may withdraw when things get emotionally intense, or feel crowded by closeness you also want.
Disorganized attachment
You want connection and fear it at the same time, often after early relationships that were both a source of comfort and of hurt.
Earned secure attachment
The goal of this work. Security is not something you either have or do not; it can be built in adulthood through new experiences of being responded to well.
You're not "too much"
Most people arrive here convinced they are the problem. Too needy, too sensitive, too intense, the common thread in every relationship that has not worked. Often they have been told exactly that.
What usually turns out to be true is that you learned, early and for good reason, how to protect yourself in relationships. Those strategies made sense then. They just cost more than they are worth now. That is a pattern to understand, not a flaw in your character, and patterns can change.
Meet Our Los Angeles Relationship Therapists
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Victoria Soneff
AMFT
- Relationship Anxiety
- Anxiety & Depression
- ADHD
- Relationship Challenges (ENM-Friendly)
Kristina Roman
ACSW
- Relationship Anxiety
- Anxiety & OCD
- Grief & Life Transitions
- ADHD & Executive Functioning
Frequently Asked Questions
What is relationship anxiety?
Relationship anxiety is persistent worry about your relationship or your worth within it. It can show up as overthinking small interactions, needing reassurance, fearing abandonment, or feeling on edge even when things are going well.
How do I know if I have relationship anxiety?
If you find yourself replaying conversations, seeking constant reassurance, bracing for rejection, or feeling anxious when your partner needs space, relationship anxiety may be playing a role. A consultation can help you make sense of what you are experiencing.
Can therapy help if I overthink everything?
Yes. Therapy helps you notice the patterns behind the overthinking, understand where they come from, and build practical tools to respond differently so your mind is not constantly running worst-case scenarios.
Is relationship anxiety the same as insecurity?
They overlap but are not identical. Insecurity often refers to how you feel about yourself, while relationship anxiety centers on fear about the relationship itself. The two frequently feed each other, and therapy addresses both.
How long does therapy take?
This varies depending on your goals and history. Many people begin noticing shifts within a few months of consistent work, and your therapist will review progress with you along the way.
Do you offer couples therapy as well?
Yes. Several of our therapists work with couples, and some clients do both individual and couples work. We can help you decide which format best fits your situation during your consultation.
Do I need a partner to do this work?
No. This is individual therapy, and plenty of the people we see are single, dating, or working on patterns their partner is not part of. Understanding how you relate is useful whether or not anyone else is in the room. If you later want to work together as a couple, we offer that too.
What if I've been hurt in past relationships?
Past betrayals, breakups, or attachment wounds often shape how safe you feel now. Therapy provides space to process those experiences so they have less influence over your current relationships.
Can therapy help with jealousy?
Yes. Jealousy often signals deeper fears about worth, safety, or abandonment. Therapy helps you understand what is underneath it and respond in ways that build trust rather than distance.
How do I know my attachment style?
Online quizzes can be a starting point, but attachment is less a fixed label than a pattern of how you respond when connection feels uncertain. In therapy we look at what actually happens for you when someone pulls away or gets close, which tends to be more useful than a category.
Is it me, or is it the relationship?
Often it is some of both, and that question is worth untangling with someone outside the situation. Therapy can help you separate what belongs to old patterns you carry, what belongs to this particular dynamic, and what you actually want to do about it.
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Relationship Anxiety Therapy Across Los Angeles
Dating in Los Angeles comes with its own particular pressures, and the patterns that bring people here tend to follow them across every relationship. We see clients virtually throughout California, which makes it easier to keep therapy going through moves, travel, and unpredictable schedules. We work with teens and adults across Los Angeles, from Culver City and Santa Monica to Brentwood, West Los Angeles, and the surrounding communities.
You Deserve a Relationship That Feels Safe and Secure
You don't have to keep living with constant worry or overthinking. Take the first step toward more confidence, connection, and peace of mind. Schedule your free consultation today and we'll help match you with the right therapist for your goals.
Clinically reviewed by Keisha Libbrecht, LMFT, License LMFT #119480 · Last reviewed August 12, 2026
This page is for general information and is not a substitute for individual clinical advice.